When road blocks are really your building blocks & how to get out of your own way!

Are you crystal clear ✨ and focused like a mofo laser beam 🎯 on your desires for your life?

Because, most likely they are going to come to you through your πŸ’Έ biz!

And even more likely the only one standing int the way of you and your dreams is Y-O-U! Which is great, because, I'm going to tell you how to get out of your own way. Even better, it's SUPER DUPER simple once you know the trick!

So let me illustrate it with a story...

2 days ago I put together my 2018 price guide for all my services and about 9hrs ago ⏰ I knew EXACTLY which of my 8 (amazeball) services I was going to go ALL-IN on ---- after being back-n-forth for months knowing which was ''the one''.

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Energetically I was all over the place launching this, then that and really not knowing which ONE thing to focus on which was bugging the eF outta me, plus I loathe the traditional online launch model.

But last night, about 3am, it became CRYSTAL CLEAR as it struck me like a ⚑️ how I'm going to make my dreams come true 😊 to create the income and πŸ™ŒπŸΌ  tribe of raving fans I desire to impact. ----CRAP!---- in the 24hrs it took me to actually write this post I changed my mind AGAIN, after dinner this eve when my husband suggested to NOT offer a life-time membership to The Secret Society. He said google 'tires for life' and you won't want to do it. But it's all good, because now I have an even BETTER offer (at the same price point) that I'm going to roll out as a Thanksgiving/Black Friday Special!!!

How did I get crystal clear?

Well, that is what flow is for... following the butterflies. We do it in love why are we so hesitant to do it in our business? My ideas and inspiration just keep coming like the waves of the ocean. Cheesy but true! But there was a catalyst to my newfound clarity!

Backstory... so, I attended a webinar in April about πŸ‘« adopting from Columbia, it's been on my πŸ’— ever since. My daughter doesn't want a spanish speaking sister lol and prefers a baby she can grow up with. About that time I also stumbled on an adoption agency I hadn't heard of near philly (I'm in PA) that uses NJ laws which means it's a 3-day waiting period not 30-days to finalize!!! I found out the total fees will come to apx $44,800 and set a money goal to create it.

Then this am I wake up to an email #signs inviting me to a Columbia webinar (because I was on the April one) and I have to think this most certainly is a thoughts-become-things thing...

because I got crystal clear on my desires, so did how I was going to manifest them!

Now, I still don't know if our child is born years ago from a mom in columbia or somewhere in a belly right now in Pennsylvania but what I do know is I'm EMBRACING the journey πŸ‘£ every step along the way.

And here is the switch! Here is where everything changes in life and biz... are ya ready for it?

I realized in this situation and several others I was unknowingly playing a VICTIM and not taking an attitude of gratitude and empowering myself. Once I stopped crying ''woe is me'' (I can't get new clients, I can't make more money, I can't loose weight, I can't ________ <---- insert what ever B.S. story you are telling yourself.

When looked for a solution I IMMEDIATELY found it!

For the purpose of this story I shall declare that... 

I'm no longer a victim of my infertility (and many other stories I told myself but that's another post). I'm an empowered woman on a MISSION to grow our family... whatever it takes, however long it takes! The not knowing now is actually exciting now and not disappointment!

Did you hear that!? Not knowing can be exciting not frustrating!!!

STOP PLAYING THE VICTIm in the story of your life.

I could be sad that I'm now ''over 40'' (and have the ovaries of a 50+ year old) and my whole life the only J-O-B I ever really wanted was M-O-M. I could blame my husband for making me ''wait'' to have a baby (both the first time + 2nd time).

And for many years I was SAD and one reason I threw myself into building this online business!

Kinda like business too.... I could be frustrated that it's taking me ''THIS LONG'' (almost 4 years now) because, I haven't replaced the income from my other business yet :/ but whay

Are there places in your life and business where YOU are playing the role of a victim and not an empowered PERSON?

I wasn't ''this woman'' even 1-month ago! A few simple mindset shifts and ka-pow πŸ’₯!

I show up EVERY DAY. 
NO MATTER WHAT.

In my life + biz.

Can you imagine.... knowing EXACTLY where all your time-energy-attention is going to go in your biz to yield you the results you desire?

I may not be doing a FB live, or sending an email or all the things I ''should'' be doing to grow + market my biz but what I'm doing is 1000x times MORE effective because I'm growing + stretching MYSELF. And it has a ripple effect!

Every day, I'm showing up to be a better version of me than the day before. And yes there are many days I do the cha-cha πŸ’ƒπŸΌ one step forward 2 steps back πŸ˜‚. But, I love the woman and biz owner I am now and I can not wait to meet the woman and biz owner I will be 10 years from now!

As my mentor Jenny Fenig always says... THE WORK IS THE WAY!

I feel like I've been waiting my whole life for the ''one moment'' that everything changes, but what if the moment it all changes is only after a series of misfortunate events where you decide to shift from ''victim'' to ''empowered'', not a book, not a mentor, not a class, not an overdrawn bank account, not a nothing... just a simple change of your mind?

Here are some of the things I did to turn off my victim switch:
+ I stopped telling myself old stories
+ I stopped playing the story of how it was ''supposed'' to be
+ I embraced my reality
+ I expressed extreme gratitude for everything and anything
+ I started to really believe I can create anything I desire

What if everything you thought was a road-block was really a building block to creating everything you truly desire?

What would you do differently?
How would you feel different?
What would you say different?
What would you think about?
Who would you be with?
Where would you be?
What would you be doing?

Now go do it!

And leave a comment below and tell me about a story where you are playing the victim and what you're going to do to ditch that role...

xoxo,
coach julia 😘

p.s. I love teaching you mindset + marketing make sure you are on my TEACHING TUESDAY list so I can keep you in the loop of my next free class and replay of the last one!

How My Daughter's First Plane Ride is Like My Online Entrepreneurial Journey!

I love everything about this photo!

God painted the sky with the dawn of a new day...

She's in awe of her new adventure.... her first plane ride ️.

Wondering if it will be fun, or scary.

Nervous to step foot from ground to plane and looking at that tiny little gap at the ground below...

"I wanna go back!",  She says "I don't wanna get on the plane!"

I said, "Sweetheart, it's the fastest way to Texas we're getting on the plane."

She got to see the cockpit and meet the pilots who told her there would be some "bumps" in the road and she would be safe, they've done this a lot (something like 50,000 hours between both of them).

Half way there she said, "This isn't so bad" and when we hit some turbulence at the end she didn't get scared she said "That was fun like a ride."

And after we landed the pilot said we "avoided weather activity" and were rerouted (which added a little time).

And this is soooooo much like online entrepreneurship!

  • We look at the plane and know it has EVERYTHING we need to get us where we want to go even if we're not sure how it all works (the ground crew, the flight crew, the captain, the co-pilot, the plane its self) and exactly how we get there. But we get on the plane and go and don't doubt we won't get there.... funny how when it comes to our biz we don't know the how and then we freak out and tell ourselves all these lies... Who am I to charge for this? Why would someone listen to ME? Why am I an expert? I don't have formal training, I've done something else for so long...

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  • We are afraid to get on the plane. (i.e. get out biz OFF the ground)

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  • We are afraid to leave the security of 2-feet on the ground for the uncertainty of "what if the plane doesn't land?" (The plane will land just as your biz will fly if you don't EVER quit.)

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  •  Sometimes we hit a rough patch (of weather) and have to take a detour... a longer trip than expected --- and boy isn't that true online we think we should make money, lots of it and really fast (I believe very few people do it this way)!!!!!

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  • There are going to be bumps in the road but we buckle up and hang on!

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  • We become an expert by putting in the time and gaining experience to get to a level of "mastery" in our field. I did the math 50,000 hours is 2,000 hours a year (40 hours @ 50 weeks) divided by 2 (pilots) is about 10 years of work! 

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  • It's cheaper to take a car to Texas.... It would also take us 6 days just to get there and back (instead of 6 hours both ways). As in biz you pay with time OR money, honey! 

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  • 80% of a planes fuel is used for take-off i.e.) it takes the MOST effort to get your plane OFF the ground but once you are in the air it's easy to cruise or course correct.

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And just like your first plane ride (or any ride if you hate flying period) your business is a little bit scary, a little bit fun, you don't know HOW your getting there (in the air or online, duh) you just know if you get in the air bus or online you will get to your destination. 

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And when you finally LAND it feels like such a relief.

You are here because your biz is meant to take off!!!!

I am your co-pilot here to help you .

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You were designed like a plane because you are meant to soar  #doitscared #faithhearthustle

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P.S. If you'd like a "flight plan" for 2017 be sure to book your "GET YOUR FIRST CLIENT in 2017" POWER HOUR with me so we can map out your Authentic Marketing Planβ„’ together. You'll know exactly what to do and when to do it to grow your biz by leaps and bounds! 50% off today only for cyber Monday then goes back up to $250 (and still worth every penny). Book here: www.JuliaSlike.com/cybermonday

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The TOP 10 Things I did to become successful in my online business!

And a little bit about the journey that took me there.... oh what a difference 2 years can make!

I have a habit of getting distracted.

August 2014, the same month I launched my first coaching website on WP I stumbled upon the opportunity to be one of 200 beta testers for a new company & product by Stella & Dot called KEEP Collective.

It was a "social selling" company which I thought meant sell through social media but it actually meant selling socially (in person) through their home parties called "Socials". 

I'll admit I had visions of dollar bills in my head,

to be on the ground floor of an established company (I had always said if I had found S&D before Thirty-one is be selling that now and not bags). I knew my colleagues who got in in the beginning have made 10s of thousands per month for Years. I wanted that to be me.

 I was just one of 200 testers in the nation, and the FIRST person in my state to get samples.

I though if I was one of the "first ones" to start building a team that I would be one of the founding designers. I was even trying to get one of the coveted 100 spots and the Tiffany pendant that came with it. If I was one of the first 5 I'd get a 10k bonus! I grew my team to 20 in 3 short months but then it fizzled out. I had booked just one social and these people didn't even know they we're coming to a jewelry party (it was a straight up drinking party) and I didn't know either but I set up my table and tried to "work it". The only person that ended up buying was my hostess. It was a flop to say the least.

I had been pouring so much energy into this new biz and second team --- and at the time I had a thirty-one team of 300+

AND

I had just launched my coaching biz. say what!!?? Isn't that like 3 businesses? Um yea.

I don't know why I got so distracted from the business I had had for 6 years and the new one I just started. I guess u could say I thought the grass was greener on the other side.

And for some of my peers it was!

Most of the leaders killing it with Keep were also leaders with thirty-one. Including one who had been the TOP recruiter the previous year and a guest in Cindy Monroe, our founders home. In fact the first leader to reach the top of the comp plan was THAT thirty-one consultant!!!

I came to the conclusion that 2 businesses with monthly quotas and 2 teams...

was just not going to work for me...

Keep in mind before I figured that out I had niched as a Direct Sales coach as I thought this could be a way I could work with BOTH my teams at the same time.

But there was still a problem.

My heart wasn't in it. 

I had "outgrown" the direct sales model which I had so loved. I had been shown ways to make money and passive income without relying on a team.... Dragging my loot to houses or spending hours standing at a vendor event trying to book a party.

I wanted to help women in ANY biz not just direct sellers. I'd now had 10 years business experience in 3 different biz models.

He who chases 2 rabbits catches none
~Chinese proverb

I'd be lying to you if I told you I didn't want to be the first top level leader with Keep but, 

that wasn't my destination it was just a chapter.

Shortly there after on of my coaches who I went to a retreat with 4 years ago launched her own coaching school online and so I began to uplevel my coaching expertise and learn from a mom that had three little kids a husband and a thriving lucrative coaching practice. I wanted to be like her!

During that training I got paired with a partner to practice my coaching skills on.

She loved me so much that she wanted to pay me but I wouldn't let her.

When the 12 practice weeks were up she was eager to hire me as her coach and she did!

Only problem was after 6+ mo she was the ONLY person to hire me as her coach. I'd had plenty of calls with potential clients but I had YET to get a client that didn't think they needed to make money first and THEN hire me. And u know how that goes.... They stay stuck and I stay broke.

It was also during this time I decided I needed to make my plan B (my coaching biz) my plan A. The stars aligned and I found a team to help brand me and bring personality to my pixels.

I spent 3 full months neglecting my direct sales biz and family while crafting and launching my rebrand (as a biz coach not direct sales coach).

I though THEN people would be banging down my door to hire me.... They weren't.

So in Jan 2015 after declaring for MONTHS "I'm gonna make 10k this mo" I declared I'm gonna work for FREE the whole month of Jan and that's when I birthed my #29onlinemarketingtips free training to build my list.

Then my Grammie (and last grandparent) passed away --- I sent her to heaven but that's another story. and my husband and I went on a weeklong cruise so I stopped at tip #21 and never finished the project.

I picked up 2 design jobs doing a webinar slide deck (with free coaching) + a sales page.... I earned $1000 in 2 weeks in April but I still wasn't making money being a "coach".

At this point I had to laugh or cry about it.

I couldn't get a client to save my life, or pay my bills for that matter. 

It was beyond frustrating and stressful. In fact when my Grammie was dying I had to borrow money from my husband just to put gas in my car to go see her. I had no room on any of my credit cards for a tank of gas and no cash. I couldn't even just jump in my car to go see my dying grandma!!!!!

I was a slave and a prisoner to my own debt which I incurred on my quest to financial freedom - talk about irony!

And then something changed the trajectory of my biz --- I had bought "another" coarse behind my husbands back and against his wishes --- but it changed everything. I had the money to pay for the first of 6, $197 payments because of the design job.

The course was to teach me how to build a course in 30 days and I was one motivated student so I did! I had 270 students register and the ones that showed up like me in my course in "my course" made leaps and bounds in their biz I was blown away and amused that I could get nearly 300 students much easier then I could get 1 client (wtf!) πŸ˜œ

Then I had what I like to call my "no launch launch" and offered lifetime student memberships to my students! I called it "beta for life" and 14 people bought it! I had made 10x return on my own investment. The first measurable ROTI in 2+ yearsπŸ‘πŸΌ

I had no idea I would end up where I am teaching online marketing and marrying my love for coaching with my love for design!

How did I get here?

1. I never quit or gave up (trust me I thought about it)

2. I believed in ME and my mission to empower others to empower others

3. I prayed

4. I hustled my buns off

5. I put my whole heart into my biz

6. I rebranded

7. I got clear on what I sell

8. I got clear on who I wanted to sell it to

9. I stopped listening to "the noise" online and started to listen to myself --- this is the ONE thing that changed EVERYTHING

10. I found my tribe

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If you are struggling to build your online business.
If there are more days you want to quit than keep going.
If you're so tired you don't even know what "awake" feels like.
If you are a prisoner to your paycheck.
If you think maybe success isn't meant for you, after all.

I want to let you know you are not ALONE. 

Entrepreneurship is a long and lonely road at times but I promise you the best view is from the highest mountain. 

Keep the faith.
Keep the heart.
Keep the hustle.

Dreams do come true!

I'd love to give you the inside scoop on how to REALLY build your own business online with my 29 BEST MARKETING tips....

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